Why a woman should never propose.

A woman should never propose marriage to her man.
I mean, I did a bit of research around the web and it’s obvious as to why, but I’ll spell it out anyway:

Because unless he takes the initiative how else is she supposed to know if he’s really committed to her?
Him saying yes to a proposal isn’t enough of a commitment.  It’s a completely different thing to her saying yes if he asked her, of course.  Why?  Because it’s different, that’s why.

Because it’s emasculating.
There’s nothing worse than having a woman tell him she thinks he’s amazing and the pick of the bunch. Can you imagine how much that would ruin his self-esteem?

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Boys to Men: choosing fatherhood in a society that shames caring

Some muses on adulthood and parenting today.

The right to choose is crucial to the personhood of men. The right to choose has to mean not only the right to choose not to bring a child into the world…but also the right to have a child, joyously, without paying the price of isolation from the world if you would rather be a full time father than enter the usual rewarded occupations.

In a society that shames caring, where some little boys are still encouraged not to play with dolls, what message are we actually giving?

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Adulting Redefined: a community redefining what it means to be an adult.

Do you like to do things your own way?
Feel like you’re not an ‘Adult’ even though you left you ‘teenage-hood’ behind years ago?
Or:
Feel like you’re definitely an ‘Adult,’ but ‘adulting’ means something different to what your parents said it meant?

Are you actually just ‘adulting alternatively’ with/without realising it?

Adulting alternatively

I’d love to hear from people who challenge the paradigm and want to encourage others to do the same. People who have tips to share, or questions for other who might be able to help. People who are finding their way as an ‘Adult,’ people who have this thing down pat (their way) or people who are ‘Adults’ but don’t quite fit the mold.  Or people who are currently ‘mainstream’ but want to try something new, because let’s face it:  we’ll all still be in the process of growing up till we die, even though we’re ‘grown ups,’ and can all benefit from a little help, and by helping others.

I’d love you to join in creating a community redefining what it means to be an adult.  I’m looking for creators to write articles, share opinions, photos or blog posts. DIYs and how to’s.  Interpretive dance and alternative ways of life.  Quirky cutlery and toasters shaped like a sloth.

Jump in the comments below or send me a message on facebook and lets start a revolution!